Q: As young parents my husband and I are torn between giving in to my six-year-old daughter when she becomes overly demanding and standing our ground and doing what’s best for her. Sometimes it’s easier to just give her what she wants. We feel totally out of control when this happens, but she becomes a “little monster.” What should we do?
A: This conflict rages stronger than ever for today’s parents. Many parents have grown up in a culture of instant gratification (i.e. fast food, cable TV, cell phones and computers), all designed to keep us tuned in and turned on to our every desire. Unfortunately cell phones don’t teach us to communicate better, instant information doesn’t make us any smarter and fast food promotes poor health. So remember that giving in to our children’s childish demands reflects our own lack of patience and understanding. When your child throws a tantrum or repeatedly asks for something after you have said no, don’t give in. Be patient and exhibit the guidance and firmness that all children crave. Both you and your husband must be consistent in this. It is not easy, but eventually you should be able to re-establish control over your daughter’s behavior. Making better choices now will serve both you and her further down the road.
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